The middle of the first year

Tempers were flaring at this point. We practically couldn't say one nice word to one another. We were basically at our whit's end. What is there a couple to do??

Seek Council of a higher power? No, not at first we didn't  go to God, but to our pastor. We were super honest with him. I mean if we really wanted to work this thing out then we NEEDED to just put it out all on the table. Hang our dirty laundry out for him to tell us where the stains are.

This was not easy or fun. But, our pastor is such a Godly man and we needed that, as both of us, obviously, were not seeking God's will at this time.

So, you really wanna stayed married?

Blank stares from us and then a resounding  YES!

The healing process was to begin. It was hard seeing where we were both needed some work. And, by work I am a lot of work!!! I was determined I didn't want to be divorced again.

Here is where God really showed up in our lives. No longer were we seeking the have things our way but, to have things go Gods way. This was difficult because it was so easy to forget to seek Him, and time and time again I would need to be brought back to the place where I want Him to guide my heart. 

We started reading our bibles, we starting praying and things started changing. For the Good. I will admit sometimes, even to this day, I will let pride get the better of me, but I then have to go before God.

I noticed my hubby was more compassionate and not so easily angered. I thought I wanna be like that. So, I watched him, studied him, and spied on him. I needed to be where he was at this point.

We have been married for 5 years now and I must say that everyday God brings us closer and closer. Don't get me wrong, we still don't always see eye to eye, but we now no longer feel it has to be his/my way. We talk about it, we pray about it, and we listen to each other.

I am so thankful/blessed for the relationship  we have today!!! I know NOW above all else that God can change people. God still does miracles!!!